This was a difficult story to report. Some of these conversations stayed with me long after the interviews ended. I spoke with these bright, ambitious women who came to Silicon Valley to pursue their dreams. They described being sexually harassed, assaulted or raped—often by someone they knew and trusted, someone they considered a friend. What was especially painful to hear was what happened afterward. Some described being discouraged from going to the police. Others said they were told nobody would believe them. And someone was told that she was seeking attention and all was a lie. 🥲 Alongside the trauma came fears about losing friendships, careers and their place in a community they had hoped to belong to. When the person you’re accusing has money, influence and powerful connections, seeking accountability can feel like David taking on Goliath. Victims aren’t always women, although most of the accounts shared with me came from women. One woman’s point stayed with me: we need to confront the predatory mindset—the entitlement that allows someone to disregard another person’s boundaries. Whisper networks can help people warn and protect one another. But they cannot substitute for a system people can trust: somewhere to turn for support, a fair process for investigating allegations, and meaningful accountability when misconduct is established—even when those responsible are wealthy or powerful. To the women who shared their experiences with me: thank you. I know these are deeply personal and painful things to revisit. I appreciate your trust. No single article can capture the full weight or complexity of someone’s experience. I take seriously the responsibility of telling these stories with care. My hope is that bringing them into the light helps more people find support—and helps create a culture where pursuing your dreams doesn’t mean staying silent about harm. If you ever unfortunately get into the situation of experiencing rape or sexual assault, please seek medical care and professional support, and consider reporting to the police when you feel safe and ready. You do not have to face this alone. What happened was not your fault, and you deserve care, support and to be heard. I was deeply moved by the strength of the women I spoke with and their determination not to let what happened define their lives. They still have dreams to pursue, companies to build and so much ahead of them. They deserve every opportunity to shape that future. 🌷 Read my latest article for @nypost and @californiapost (link in thread) 👇

men want a cool gf until she’s actually cooler than them and suddenly they start doing unpaid psychological warfare to make her insecure

One year later after the ALLEGED assault.

Elon has lived with Shivon Zillis for a long time, despite his philandering. I mostly feel bad for all the kids he abandons. 14 or more now.

This is a very important video to re-share given all the conversation about Cornell University and rape culture and the role of men in addressing sexual violence

You wanna see a trick we're taught as little girls? Women, if you're ever being sexuałly assaułted, what's the one word you were taught to scream?

Cornell case: The fact is, 1 in 5 women at university are sexually assaulted A systematic review of available data, focusing on studies with large representative samples and multiple behaviorally specific questions, concludes 1 in 5 is an accurate average xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.…

Genuinely what the fuck is her problem

Another element to this which makes it even more disturbing is that they think she is ruined and should never be loved again. Its snuff.

Kate Manne, a Cornell prof, has had many victims confide in her experiences of sexual assault & harassment. Many didn’t even try to report them--for those who did, the outcomes have rarely been positive. There’s a sense that campus culture is rape culture.thecut.com/article/what-it-f…

Anytime I see the meaningless manosphere quote, "women need to be held accountable" it is always just an attempt to blame shift in a situation where someone is being violent to a woman. We're apparently trying to blame a woman for being in the vicinity of man because being around one means you should've known better?