How to become a high value man by end of 2025. Before December comes, this thread will guide you to prepare yourself in identifying your values, prioritising them in a hierarchical structure, orient yourself on a path of least resistance and start making sacrifices to obtain them, transforming you into a man of value. Write down your values. For a man, your apex value should be abundance. You must attain it, or at least be on a path that will lead to its attainment. If you are too distracted in your pursuit of women and indulgences, stop reading here. What does it mean to attain your apex value on a path of least resistance? It means you will orient yourself in a strategic manner that will lessen as many obstacles in your way of attaining your value. Your choices & time allocation will be devoted to this value. This means to count your moves. To make moves in the form of sacrifices, strictly related to your apex value. Moves that negotiate with the future and force your apex value to come to you. Count each one, & stay on the path. You will achieve abundance in two ways; 1. Leverage Competence 2. Begin your own start up To leverage competence, you will first need to take stock of your current job description, pinpoint what you’re expected to do & what you get paid for. Then, you will seek to deliver your job description at an exceptional level. You will leave no room for negligence or incompetence. You will not worry about recognition, and aim to perfect what you are required to do. When ready, you will leverage your perfection, to uptake more responsibility+authority, not money. You will negotiate that you currently do ABC for X amount, but you are willing to do ABCDE for 2 months, and if you deliver, you will rightfully request positional ascendency. When you become exceptional in your line of work, you create specific-knowledge-like asymmetry. Any asymmetry you create in your favour, can be leveraged. Exchange the value you generate easily, for the value you want. When I worked as a pharmacist, I dispensed at 30 seconds per medication, when others took 10min. I leveraged this to reduce staff, then leveraged to implement systems for cost efficiency, which made me a manager, & leveraged for corporate. Study the scenario, find the leverage. While you exercise this, you will record, print weekly reports of every sale, every profit, every satisfied customer under your name and construct an impeccable CV. So when the bosses don’t play nice, you can leverage this as a threat. If you are successful in your promotion, repeat the process. Find leverage in your new found responsibilities. You are not pursuing more money. You are pursuing more responsibility and authority. Money will come after. Leverage competence for positional power. Your competence in your job should be part of the system. You do not want your competence to self-automate in your absence. You want to become so good at what you do, that the business falls apart without you. Generate reliance to cement your leverage. Avoid redundancy. Option 2 is start up. If you want to start your own business, in my opinion it is a brutal path to take. Have a stable job before taking the risk in going for a startup. You must maintain a stable income stream for this option. You are not an entrepreneur if you are not making weekly progress. If you want to start your own business, you must have a clear deadline for weekly action & progress. Investors check progress, worth ethic & personality before investing. Your journey to abundance will kill off so many undesirable parts of you, that you will inevitably transform who you are. You’ll be forced to become strategic, think ahead, be cunning and ambitious. A force to contend with. If you don’t become disagreeable in your quest for abundance, you are not devoting enough time for your apex value: -you come first -competitive -less social -assertive -insubordinate -value driven -time conscious unconcerned for anything petty & frivolous. These qualities developed as a side effect in your path to abundance, are the traits that make you attractive. Combine this with your capacity to provide, your accountability & competence, it makes you a high value man. Your aim before December 1. Acknowledge apex value as abundance 2. Pinpoint the position you are seeking. 3. Pinpoint your path towards it 4. Pinpoint your job description 4. Write down how to excel in it 5. Plan on how you’ll leverage it once excelled By 2024, you should have improved your current position and developed, -Responsibility -Confidence -Authority -Credibility -Leadership -Disagreeableness Don’t stop. You’re set to dominate 2024. The lesson in this article is to understand leverage. When you become exceptionally competent in one domain, you can leverage it on the dominance hierarchy and ultimately increase your value. This lesson can be applied to many contexts.

Statecraft and Corporate leadership has much in common: In corporate, you control dependencies and manage incentives. In statecraft, you control institutions and feign consequences. In both situations you are trying to convey an environment in which players are supposed to discover that cooperating with you also serves their own interests.

The more desperately you desired to be acknowledged by someone, the less valuable you appear. Desperation drives people and opportunities away, it reeks of a stench that is akin to an insecure man. It is a testament of being a losing position in life. If you were really valuable, you wouldn't have had to desire acknowledgement or recognition of your existence. You would have had multiple alternative options. Real value doesn't need to beg for acknowledgement.

A formidable reputation is built with few terms: You are competent. You are reasonable. And You can enforce consequences. Competence is the foundation of a solid reputation. Being reasonable makes it convenient to work with you, and being capable of exacting consequences keeps you from being exploited.

Be competent. Be cunning. Master First Principles. Master Game Theory. Build a formidable reputation. Reputation acts like accumulated interest: people cease judgement on individual performance and offer you opportunities even before you have acted, because "you are known for it." However, be careful the harder it is build reputation, the easier it is to be lost.

If you want to become harder to manipulate, study the insults and compliments that affect you the most. Insult reveals insecurities you can't handle being poked. Praise reveals insecurities you want to be stroked. The traits that rile up emotions become leverage for manipulators.

If you want to understand the true character of a person, watch how they behave around individuals of different status. Some people are deeply transactional, they are kind to the people who are useful and similarly cold-hearted to someone who has nothing to offer them. Their good demeanour is just social planning disguised as kindness.

Never enter into conflict merely because someone has challenged your ego. Only engage in conflict when you have something real to be gained. Some provocations are designed to make you waste energy. Be able to distinguish between real threats and insults, this will keep you from wars your ego wants but your interests don't.

Incompetent individuals are generally humble, exceptions may exist. This is because you have to manage your incompetence by increasing your social liking. Competent individuals, who are aware that they are good at what they do, are generally arrogant. Partly, because they have an abundance of options to choose from.

Most people stupidly think that leverage is having power over others, although true to certain extent. Leverage simply means having enough alternatives that you can't be forced or blackmailed into a bad decision. Abundance of option is anti-thesis to desperation, men negotiate against themselves when they are trapped under desperation.

Reaching a position is far more easier than preserving it. Success comes with prizes, and with competition, enemies, and obligations. To be successful is to be a target, winners live in perpetual storms.

Never get emotionally attached to an identity, it restricts you because you will eventually defend bad outcomes, refuse to be objective or be open counter arguments just to protect that identity. If you identify as the brightest, every idea from others sounds mundane even if better than yours. If you identify as the bravest, you dive into irrational decisions. Let your talents be facets of you, and not become you.

According to game theory: Consequences should be strong enough to make defection unattractive, however not so destructive that it makes cooperation unwarranted. As such the most successful strategy that effectively works is tit for tat.

Competence is rare. Integrity is rare. Extraordinary ability paired with integrity is extremely rare. If you find someone with integrity who has the potential to be exceptionally competent, invest in them early, expose them to increasingly difficult problems, pay attention to how they behave under authority, reward the behavior to be repeated, teach them competence and integrate them in your systems.

Be suspicious of hypothetical rewards, when someone offers you something without finalized terms they expect a commitment in return: promised promotion, possible appraisal, or the hope are future partnerships are equivalent to nothing, until set in reality. The allure of something generates hope, and hope is dangled in order to produce compliance.

The person who avoids every dangerous opportunity highlighting their prudence, may be a coward in truth. Simply terrible at estimating risk. Being brave does not mean to drive head-first in every risk, however it means having the ability to understand some risks are fatal, and some could be reduced through preparation, effort or luck. Excessive caution is cowardice disguised as prudence.

The simplest way to hijack someone's agenda is not to offer a convincing argument; it is imminent failure, causing egotistic clashes and leads to unnecessary conflict. The trick is to be a trojan, it is to befriend them; initially, agree with their campaigns, brush up their ego and when a solid foundation of friendship has been establish, you subtly bias their perspective towards your terms.

Study people as concepts rather than facts. Some people are generally vain, but could be a little modest when circumstances. Some are timid, but could be brave. Some are brilliant but difficult to work with. Most individuals have a general set of behavior pattern they a follow, that is how they behave most of the time. Then, people have an incentivised behavior pattern, one that changes their behavior based on their self-interest.

The greatest form self-deception is arranging your life such a way that the truth doesn't get the chance to confront you. You learn a lot more about yourself in the things that you refuse to confront with a plausibly justifiable reason: you fear action but reading self-help books equally makes you feel productive, you always come up with an excuse for difficult conversation, you find something to blame for you misery. Ignorance of reality doesn't change reality.