Supporting professionals in having constructive dialogues with boys/young men. Currently writing ‘The Silent ‘M’’

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Outline of the book in progress, ‘Speaking of Men…’ *Where are the men (& boys)? *How are the men (&boys)? *Why are the men (& boys) [in these situations, doing these things]? *What can we do (to make things safer, better, more human)? Preorders in January
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Dear @JohnSwinney A man who allows other men who are convicted rapists and abusers of women, to enter the women’s prison estate, on the strength of their own say-so, is a misogynist. It’s not a nuanced issue. It’s visible from the moon. Your hypocrisy is rank
We need men’s voices consistently calling out violence against women and girls and making it absolutely clear that it’s a shameful way to behave. That’s exactly what I pledge to do. Let's change the culture and eradicate these toxic attitudes for good. I hope you can join me.
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Ah yes, the medieval view. Popular in some quarters.
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I can recognise bravery in people I don’t agree with in the same way that I can recognise physical beauty in people I don’t agree with. It’s not hard if you separate recognition from emotion.
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It is the rejection of discernment, not to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff.
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Replying to @AlisonMoyet
Fair point. The idea that we have to entirely trash everything about people we don't agree with, on particular things or in general, is absurd.
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It leads to the worst of human behaviours
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This ‘Englishness’ thing. I don’t think coherence, ultimately, is possible. My own forebears, as far as they’re reliably known, are from Ireland, Wales and Suffolk. That’s celts (more than one type) and Saxons / Angles. For a start. Growing up as a Catholic in Lancashire I 1/
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dn760003.eu.archive.org/0/it… pdf copy of Ekwall’s 1922 book.
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That's great. Thanks. I'll dig in tomorrow 👍
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
Neither am I but I do think people need to have the discussions.
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Discussion is great. Seeking truth together, listening... all for it
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place name history.
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I'm very keen on place-naming histories. Always looking stuff up. Bolton is rich in beautiful names that seem weirdly at odds with their current iteration. Breightmet and Doffcocker are classics
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
The only thing I have concluded from the discussion is that nobody knows what ethnicity means, how it is defined, its boundaries or its purpose.
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I admit it's a term I haven't really forensically explored. I don't think I'm alone in that
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means for the people who are currently talking past each other about whether it even exists… much in common with the trans madness there IMO.
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It'd be useful to have a simple, commonly-accepted definition of 'ethnicity'. That would be conducive to a better conversation, maybe. It wouldn't mean everyone agreed - of course - but at least there'd be clarity about the disagreement
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
I read someone else saying we’re not really talking about the ethnicity here though we’re actually talking about the ‘and so’. It’s obvious reality denial to pretend that there is no such thing as English ethnicity & that grates on me but we can’t move to discussing what ‘and so’
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I'm not entirely sure everyone is speaking about the same thing when they use the word 'ethnicity' en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethnic…
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Yes, this is how I see it.
I’ll be honest, it never once occurred to me that ‘English’ was a race rather than a nationality. The English are a mongrel race of Normans, Germanic tribes and Anglo Saxons who themselves were a melting pot of old English, Danes etc
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English as a concept only dates back to the 9th century so most of the major movements of people predate that. C10th to C20th is pretty homogenous/stable
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A stable blend would still be a blend (and it's less stable than some might presume, unless we just arbitrarily anoint all incomers 10th to 20th Centuries as 'English' because they were majority white - Flemish, French, Irish, Italian, Dutch etc)
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my ancestry from genealogy and ancestry DNA and each one has an attached cultural heritage that makes up the whole means they aren’t made up things.
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Every building block is both 'real' in some ways and porous / malleable / evolving in others. It's beautiful, in a way. I just don't think the arbitrary 'pause' button is rational
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
I get exactly what you mean about Lancashire, it is a strange crossroads county of British Isles identities. It’s kind of a liminal space. I also understand the Catholic thing. I’m about a third each English, Scottish and Irish as many Lancastrians are. But that I know this about
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A liminal space - yes! Exactly that - for me, anyway. How could it not be, with its history? Atlantic-facing. Irish-influxed. Welsh-adjacent. I know others from the same place as me wouldn't feel that way though. That's part of the permanent tension of place-belonging, I guess
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
Every single forebear I've found is English from southwest, also south of London and London back to 1500s. I was born & brought up in Scotland. I'm Scottish. And English, as is all my extended family. My ethnicity hasn't changed. Offspring "totally Scottish" despite English dad
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I find myself googling what the consensus definition of 'ethnicity' is. It isn't really conclusive itself, either en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethnic…
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We were pretty homogenous for a thousand years. English was an identity that brought together fractious tribes and kingdoms (built on language and religion). The natural barrier of the seas meant we didn't have to think about blood and soil like mainland Europe
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Who is 'we' and which period of 1000 years do you mean?
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
This is yet another big-ticket issue on which reasonable people may reasonably disagree. Because of my background and other stuff, I think I am a somewhat low-value target when it comes to this. I saw someone on here picking holes in Sunak’s ‘Englishness’ the other day and it was interesting to see that I still qualified lol. Not that I am quite sure what to make of that. If and when I am better I would love to write something about this. I wish someone would.
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Get well soon, Deepak! I'd be interested to read that
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I don't think there's any other rational, forensically historical way of seeing it. 'English' has always subsumed and stood in for a multiplicity or realities. The facts are incontrovertible.
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Likewise 'French', 'Spanish', 'American', 'Indian', 'Chinese''... all a sort of shorthand for something much more multi-dimensional
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Replying to @MenAtWork_MC
Thank you for this thoughtful thread. It is fascinating to me reading others’ thoughts on Englishness, etc. and regardless of where they land. There’s a lot of stuff bubbling under the surface and tbf I can see why.
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Glad it seems reasonable despite being rather stream-of-consciousness! There is indeed a lot bubbling under - and if were to start exploring social class and 'Englishness', there'd be even more!
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I’ll be honest, it never once occurred to me that ‘English’ was a race rather than a nationality. The English are a mongrel race of Normans, Germanic tribes and Anglo Saxons who themselves were a melting pot of old English, Danes etc
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Is there any other ethnicity you would describe as “mongrels”?
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Almost all. I'm 'mongrel' and I doubt many people aren't, even looking at the past 1000 years or so. The further back we go, the less we have seriously clear idea and the less it matters
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